Where are all the Autistic Women?
Given that psychologists believe autism to be a male disorder, that research dollars are spent on cures rather than support, and that existing support is tailored to autistic children, it is not a wonder that so many adult women go undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, and late-diagnosed.
I myself was diagnosed at twenty-two when I had become so burnout from trying to act like a neurotypical woman that I developed severe depression, anxiety, agoraphobia, suicidal ideation, and was finally forced to leave my full-tuition university scholarship and drop out. Unfortunately, my story is common.
Most adult autistic women are not diagnosed until the facade of neurotypicality becomes so impossible to keep up that they develop a host mental and physical health issues. This means most women are not diagnosed until their late thirties, forties, and fifties.
Before my diagnosis, my self-esteem was nonexistent. I had within myself an intense desire to do good but felt so alien, wild, and strange to the world that I considered taking my own life for three years. Life in modern society is painful for the autistic brain. Since receiving my diagnosis, I have found other autistic women and, for the first time in my life, I have seen myself in another human’s experience. The community of autistics I have met these last few months have provided more understanding, community, and meaning than I ever believed possible. In my experience, there is no substitute for community. After a short lifetime of meticulously studying human interaction from a distance for fear of being ostracized, it’s a relief to talk with people whom I don’t have to constantly analyze and perform for. While before I had felt completely alone, I now see myself reflected in other human beings and we are beautiful.
I am learning that I am not defective as I have been made to feel. I am not a weak or broken neurotypical woman, I am a strong and resilient autistic. This is why visibility, representation, and community are absolutely vital.
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